What NLP can teach you about being happy

Posted on 2014/03/24

Happiness is something we all crave, but not all of us have found. There are several schools of thought on what happiness means and also how to be happy.

Here at Edge NLP, we use our own tried and tested methods to help our clients, and ourselves, realise our own vision of happiness. I am Pip Thomas, and this is my experience of finding happiness through NLP.

NLP (or Neuro-Linguistic Programming) is the practice of looking closely at the relationship of language and thought patterns, and how, through this, we can change our behaviour.

Firstly, NLP is about communication. NLP can help you understand other people and how to make yourself better understood. By improving your interpersonal communication skills, it's easier to work out what you want and how to get it, whether this is at work or in your personal life. By learning to change your behaviour, you can change your outcomes to what you want or need.

NLP is not only about getting what you want as a means to happiness, but also about changing your attitude towards what you already have, helping you to think more positively and keep you motivated. By thinking more positively about your current situation, you will also perform positive behaviour, which helps your communication with others.

When seeking happiness, I first identify what it is that is making me unhappy, whether this is a particular situation, or a person. Unhappy parts of my life get in the way of my happiness, so by finding out what parts are unhappy, I can create more happiness. Focus and listen to these parts and see if you can find out why they are making you unhappy. It sounds silly but there may be a reason why these unhappy parts exist. An awareness of why I have parts of me that are unhappy helps me figure out what I really seek for happiness.

NLP can help with whatever part of your life is wanting to be made happy. This could be finding a work-life balance, or putting yourself forward at work, or a health change such as stopping smoking or losing weight. For me, NLP helped me to forge a career path after redundancy. NLP gave me the insight and impetus to welcome redundancy as a chance to move on to better things. NLP gave me the confidence to stand up for what I wanted and what I needed to make me happier.

NLP is used by 75% of Fortune 500 companies and it's no surprise. NLP is especially good for improving skills in the workplace, particularly in roles which require good communication. It is also a good way of identifying areas which cause stress and shows employees how to handle stress in a positive way. If happiness at work is your goal, or that of your workforce, then NLP is worth considering. It helped me to find happiness in my own career.

In short, NLP gives individuals to identify what makes them tick, and therefore how to tap into themselves to create the actions which lead to success and happiness. Through NLP, I found my own strengths, identified weaknesses, and made the change to self-employment, and ultimately a happier me. I am still on the path to complete happiness, but am confident I will get there.