The Emotional Value of Happiness

Posted on 2014/03/31

Francesca Reigler says "Happiness is an attitude; we either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same".

Attitude plays a major role in determining whether we remain happy or unhappy in a particular situation. It is our choice to be happy or sad regardless of what situation we are in.

Life is a combination of good and bad happenings. Those of us who remain sad most of the time actually ignore many good things around them and feel depressed. This speeds up their process of ageing as well as makes them vulnerable to many painful diseases, which in turn makes them even more hopeless. There are people who remain happy despite nothing to feel joyful, but their attitude motivates them to feel happy. They have more courage to face hardships due to death of a closed one, poverty, or disability.

Attitude is how we look at the things, people, and the world at large. An attitude involves both thought processes and emotional values. Everyone has certain thoughts about whatever happens to him and his responses are based on his emotions. Therefore, it is not just our thoughts that directs us how to react to a situation or to handle difficulties; it also involves emotional reactions. Our reactions differ on the basis of emotions. All of us may have the same knowledge about a particular situation but we may react differently. Thinking can be changed compared to the emotions provided all the data and information about a person is accurate. Emotions have a profound impact on our lives and guide our thoughts and behavior in regard to situations in life. When the emotive value of a goal is positive, we feel more blessed. We happily accept a difficult job without being anxious if its emotional value is good. Most of us like to change bad emotions. Being unhappy make us feel anxious, frustrated, and angry and no one likes these emotions. We want to get rid of these feelings. In an effort to change these emotions, we often justify these feelings and try to change others in order to feel better; but it obviously doesn’t work. 

It is equally important to understand feelings of other people. Sometimes, these feelings are very ambiguous and this is why people normally differ in opinions about a simple issue and can’t develop a mutual understanding of an issue. The initial tendency is to concentrate on emotive value of a matter and modify it first. People wish that this emotional feeling should be changed. It is not that simple unless we don’t know the reason of being sad, and what we have to modify in our behavior. We may not get hold of ourselves on a feeling. The change process starts with thought and behavior that is more controllable for us. It is essential to participate in positive thought process and observe your behavior in any given situation; it will gradually modify emotional feelings. There is a relationship between thoughts, emotions, and behavior. We need to think positive and adapt good behavior so as to change our attitude. When you change your thoughts, your emotions and behavior also changes in the same direction. Since it is easier to control your thoughts and behavior, this is where to start your work of being strong and resilient. Change your thoughts! Change your behavior! The emotions will modify and you’ll be creating happiness.